Learn the best ways to support a friend in addiction recovery with thoughtful words, real empathy, and phrases that heal instead of hurt.
1. "I'm proud of you."
It might seem simple, but this phrase goes a long way. It acknowledges their strength without judgment.
2. "You're not alone."
Addiction thrives in silence. Letting them know you're in their corner can make all the difference.
3. "How can I support you right now?"
Rather than guessing, this question invites them to share their needs in the moment.
4. "I see how hard you’re working."
Recovery is exhausting, especially early on. This validates their effort.
5. "You don’t have to explain your recovery to me."
Sometimes the best support is space and unconditional respect.
What NOT to Say to a Friend in Recovery
1. "So you can't ever drink again?"
This can feel minimizing or pressuring. Recovery is different for everyone, and this question puts the focus on deprivation.
2. "You don’t look like an addict."
Even if well-intentioned, this reinforces harmful stereotypes.
3. "Come on, one won’t hurt!"
Please don’t. Ever.
4. "I liked you better when you were drinking."
Oof. This is cruel, even if said jokingly. Sobriety changes people, often for the better.
5. "Why can’t you just have willpower?"
Addiction is a disease, not a character flaw. This kind of comment is rooted in stigma, not science.
Instead of Trying to Fix, Just Be Present
You don’t have to be a recovery expert. You just have to show up with a little compassion and a lot of listening.
Want to go a step further? Surprise your friend with a small gesture like a sobriety-themed t-shirt, a sober journal, or just a handwritten note. Sometimes the simplest gifts say the most.
Final Thoughts
Words can wound, but they can also heal. If someone in your life is fighting to stay sober, let them know they’re seen, loved, and supported. Not just once, but over and over again.
At InspiringSobriety.com, we believe in recovery out loud. That means talking about the hard stuff and celebrating the wins, one day at a time.
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